Friday, July 10, 2015

Stop Rehearsing What You Don't Want



What is fear? It is a rehearsal of what you don't want, largely done unconsciously, and expressed physically.

Did you know that a fear of heights isn't really a fear of heights at all? It is a fear of falling. There is a thought the moment before the body reacts in fear. That thought is a picture, an internal dialogue, or a knowing of falling. You are most likely not even aware of the thought. You become aware of the fear because your body reacts to the thought and you feel it.

Did you know that you don't have procrastination? You can't put it in a a box. You can't hand it off to someone. It has no existence. It is a process that you do inside. The process is rehearsing ... doing it tomorrow. Doing it later. Not doing it now.

Fear isn't stuck and permanent. Neither is procrastination. There is a way to create change. FasterEFT is the most successful and easy way I have ever learned to create changes. For myself and others. The way in which it works is simple. The effect is powerful, especially for those like myself who have experienced panic attacks that feel so real yet seem to have no reason.

Since birth you have stored all the events, experiences, stories and information of your life inside your unconscious mind in the form of:

Pictures (snapshots, movies)
Voices (sounds, songs, your voice or someone else's)
Feelings (sensations in the body, things we call emotions)
How To Programs (instructions on how to perform or react in different circumstances)

Two common examples of "how to programs" are driving and writing. At first learning these skills was work, requiring presence and concentration. Possibly even frustration. I remember clearly feeling nearly overwhelmed that I would never be able to keep the car between the lines on the road. Of course I was rehearsing in my head what would go wrong as I drove outside the lines.

The same with handwriting. It was an unfamiliar challenge to hold a pencil and create the letters. My hand got tired. I persisted and now I can write without even looking at the paper. It's not particularly pretty or neat, but I can do it.

I can drive and arrive at my destination with no conscious thought of the trip there. How many times have you done that yourself? These skills have reached a level known as unconscious competence.

Those are useful how to programs. Fear is a how to program as well and it is one that is meant to keep us safe. That is the goal but the reality is fear keeps us stuck and controlled. It also keeps us so focused on what we don't want that we find more reasons to fear it, and miss opportunities to create or see the things we do want. It always comes down to focus.

The brilliant way in which FasterEFT works to create changes is to interrupt the process you do inside to create fear. The meridian tapping in FasterEFT stimulates the unconscious to rewrite these pictures, sounds, and feelings to create a new how to program by causing the body to relax and let go of its physical reaction. When this is done we become empowered to act in a new way, no longer controlled by the fear.

Letting go of fear does not make you stupid. For example, say you have a fear of water (a fear of drowning), releasing that fear does not mean you will jump in the water if you know you cannot swim. It means you are no longer controlled by a fear of water, and now perhaps you are free to learn how to swim.

The goal is to be in control as opposed to be controlled. Which state is more empowering to you?

FasterEFT has allowed me to let go of my fears of moving foward in having my own business. It has also enabled me to join Toastmasters and to let go of my fear of public speaking (which really was a fear of being judged). Now I still have to work on the skill of public speaking, the difference is I am not afraid to do so. I can think clearly, improve, and learn.

I still have some fears left to tackle though, FasterEFT is not an overnight event, or even a 2 hour event. It is a life coping skill. It is something I use every day. I have found it to be the best skill for emotional intelligence.

What are your fears? How are they holding you back? What would you rather be rehearsing?

Remember, we get what we focus on. If we are focused on what we fear, guess what shows up? Personally, I want to put my energy in focusing on what I want.

Thanks to FasterEFT I was able to speak in public, on camera, at my Level II Practitioner training in Oklahoma City:



This is my favorite FasterEFT video on procrastination (I have tapped along to this one a few times or more):



Peace,
Nicola